Reflections in the Mirror – You and Yourself

Resilience is a compelling trait. It’s standing tall rather than hanging our heads and shuffling away when the invitation to give up beckons.  Resilience is saying, “Yes I can,” in the presence of those who doubt us.  And it’s never succumbing to the forces of defeat that may be all around us. Being resilient in the face of humiliation, or rage, or degradation, or fear of defeat, or just simply indefinable fear is the fabric of eventual success.  Rebounding or recovering from the many personal insults, whether they are large or small, overt or covert[...]

I have never fallen away from my 12 step meetings.  In fact, I go to more meetings a week now than I did when I first came into the program.  Because I attend both AA and Al-Anon, I usually get to five meetings a week.  Some might think that at 38 years sober, five meetings is overkill.  On the contrary, I think that the more we get to, the greater will be our joy and peace of mind.  It's joy and peace that call to me, every day.  I know how to find it.  I know how to help others find it too. I am willing to do whatever I need to do to continue growing.[...]

I got an email this morning from one of my frequent blog post readers.  She brought to my attention that my website had disappeared.  How very fortunate that she and I had written to each other directly on occasion which made it possible for her to reach out to me with this information.  You might imagine my first reaction.  Yikes.  What to do next.  What I discovered when I went to the sight was that my domain name had expired thus I had been shut out.  How to remedy the situation was above my pay grade. The primary reason this was initially troubling w[...]

1. Come to appreciate that every person on one’s path is a learning partner. 2. Every argument is about fear. 3. No relationship is accidental.  Be grateful. 4. Make the choice to be peaceful rather than right. 5. When others around you are not kind, they are afraid. Be kind any way.  Only one person has to be kind for the situation to change. 6. Understand that any expression that is not loving is a call for healing and help.  Offer only love. 7. Make the decision to no longer see one’s self as unfairly treated. 8. Rejoice that we can[...]

I looked at the date of my last post and was shocked.  It has been over a month since I connected with the readers of this blog.  Please accept my apology.  Travel took me away from this particular task and then regrouping after all the travel took it's toll too.  I am becoming a bit more aware of my aging body every trip, it seems.  My dilemma is that I love, absolutely love what I do when I am on the road facilitating workshops.  Connecting in such an intimate way with the thousands of women and men over the years has fed my soul.  It has fed my curiosity[...]