Reflections in the Mirror – You and Yourself

Changing one’s focus can change one’s life. . .

I have needed to change my focus with great intention, lately.  That’s because I have been dealing with chronic pain for many months, for more than two years, actually.  And it may be a condition that will remain unchangeable.  I have not ignored the options for dealing with it.  I […]

The learning curve keeps winding forward . . .

Over this past week I was a co-leader of a 3 day workshop in Naples.  The program included a phenomenal group of women and my co-facilitator was a phenomenal teacher.  I even got many “take-aways,” a gift I hadn’t expected, actually.  Since both Jill (Kelly) and I teach writing groups, […]

Writing our memoir. . . Saving our lives

I found that remembering and then writing about my past, particularly the parts that were grim or embarrassing or sometimes even shameful; released me from their hold.  We cannot be held hostage by any thing or any one without our consent.  That’s not an easy idea to believe when first […]

Sometimes life is two steps backwards. . .

I have been in the recovery rooms for more than three and a half decades and most of my movement has been “forward.”  I detailed much of that in my recent book: My Story to Yours: A Guided Memoir for Writing Your Recovery Journey, published by Hazelden, fall of 2011. […]

Breaking up is hard to do. . .

No doubt we can all remember the song of that title: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do.  And it’s likely we have all experienced the trauma of it happening to us.  I am presently watching, with a supportive eye, open arms and a loving heart, a very dear friend pick […]

Finding joy in the ordinary. . .

This is not the first post about joy that I have recently written.  It’s on my mind because of the seminars I do, the books I write and my own daily commitment to living  joyfully.  Obviously I believe it’s attainable; and yet I know many who seldom express joy or […]

Listening is an art form. . .

I wrote about the importance of listening in my last post but it really can’t be stressed enough.  It’s through the attention we give to others that we both honor them and hear the messages God has for us. I’m convinced of this. When I first came into the recovery […]

Recovery offers us the gift of family . . .

I was estranged from my family during the last years of my using days.  I saw them once or twice a year but seldom more.  And they weren’t all that sorry about my absence.  I was easily triggered to be angry at them about every opinion they held.  My presence […]

Technology continued. . .

You can teach an old dog new tricks. I’m proof positive. Just ask my friend Dan Griffin.  (You can see his work and web page by going to dangriffin.com). I mentioned in the last post that I had received an iPad for my birthday and even though I wanted it, […]

Detachment is one pathway to peace of mind. . .

I have written often about detachment.  In books, articles and throughout this blog.  It’s of major importance to my life because it’s the key to my own peaceful state of mind.  I want to stress that detachment doesn’t mean not caring about others.  In fact, it means to care enough […]