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Reflections in the Mirror - You and Yourself
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July 19, 2010

Will what I am about to say, be helpful?

I pose that question because I think it’s worthy of consideration in every conversation I  have.  I have tried over the past few years to let those words guide me when sharing my opinions with others.  It’s simply so natural for me to think I have all the answers; that my assessment of any situation is the correct one.  However, what may be right for me is not necessarily right for some one else.  This is true whether we are talking about the action a person is considering or the opinion one is harboring.  It’s not my right, or any one else’s either, to assume control over what another person chooses to think or do.

Learning to remain quiet when the urge to correct some one calls, takes a herculean effort in some instances.  I know full well how hard it is to back away from situations and people when I think I know best.  The need to control is insidious.  I marvel at those men and women who appear to be truly unconcerned with the behavior and the opinions of others.  I hope to imitate them one day.  In the meantime, it’s a daily goal for me.

There are some very simple questions that need to be asked.  Is what I am about to say going to be helpful?  Will my words add value to the moment?  Will they harm or help heal the other people present?  If I can’t say yes to all of these questions, remaining quiet is the best contribution I can make.

Learning to be quiet is an art I think.  And it’s one that begins to feel empowering when practiced.  It’s one that can begun a new every day.

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I am an author, a lecturer, and a workshop presenter. I have presented programs throughout the United States, Canada, Mexico, Germany, and Ireland. As of July, 2010 I have published 23 books, with number 24 being released in spring of 2011 and a memoir underway. For a listing of my books and ordering information, go to www.womens-spirituality.com. To contact me about presenting a program in your area, call 239-398-6327 or e-mail me from my web site or at jcasey4991@aol.com

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    March 14, 2011

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      Issac Maez
      March 17, 2011

      I am delighted my words spoke to you in a meaningful way.
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    January 26, 2011

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      January 28, 2011

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    December 15, 2010

    Thanks for “tuning in.”
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  • noreen keating
    July 30, 2010

    Hi there, being a mom of 8 and now a grandma of soon to be 8, and the oldest is 4 yrs old. I see myself sometimes giving advice to my parenting children. I do it in a kind way, say my piece and then go quiet. One thing I have trouble tollerating is my grandson (4) hitting on his little sister (2). Brings back memories for me growing up with my bully brother and I had no protection from my parents. I was left fending for myself. I do speak up when they visit me im my home, by saying simply,”Don’t hit your sister”
    I will use your wise 3 suggestions before I speak.

    all the best, Noreen

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      noreen keating
      August 4, 2010

      The older I get, I’ve learned that the the “wiser” suggestions, from me or others, are always simple. Life is less complicated than we make it.
      Keep visiting me.
      Karen

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