“Wow!” supposedly was the final utterance of Steve Jobs, Apple’s founder, according to his wife.  Whether that’s true or not, I choose to believe it.  The affirmation that there is something beyond this world, something worthy of a wow, pleases me.  I already believed it but we seldom get a message that so clearly affirms that there is something more.  I hope that when I pass over, I’m just as inclined to say wow.

But it’s this life that needs our “Wows” now.  And there are myriad situations every day that are worthy of a wow.  The “accidental” meeting of someone new, for example, someone who had the very piece of information we were seeking. I used to wonder how he or she showed up at just the right time.  Now I know. There are no accidental meetings.  Ever.  We initiated every encounter we have had here, in these skins, before we woke up in this life.

To some of you this may sound ludicrous.  It did to me too, initially. But it was a good friend who said she believed this was how life unfolded. ( Actually, I secretly thought she was a bit kooky).  And then I read Caroline Myss’s Sacred Contracts.  While reading that book my doubts dissolved.  Even though I often still forget that life is unfolding perfectly, it doesn’t take me long to get back on track.  And trusting this idea as truth has made every experience at the very least, more tolerable, if not always pleasant.  Not every lesson in life is pleasant.  But every lesson is necessary.

Everyone of you reading this can no doubt name any number of “lessons”over the years that you didn’t much like.  But every one of the lessons moved you forward in your life plan, didn’t it?  My first marriage comes to mind.  Even though neither Bill nor I were good partners to each other, I don’t doubt the necessity for our marriage.  My experiences with him lead me not only from Indiana to Minnesota, but to graduate school where I attained a PhD.   The icing on the cake was that I ended up in Alcoholics Anonymous too.  The rest is history, as they say.

My life’s work was the natural outgrowth of all that happened before.  Just in the nick of time I showed up exactly where I always needed to be.  Fancy that!  But don’t think for a minute that it happened only to me.  Wherever you are right now, is exactly where you need to be.  Whomever you journey with presently, you have “called” them to you.  And where your travels take you tomorrow follows this same pattern too.  Relax.  Your life is under control.  Every moment!  Enjoy the dance!  You might as well.



  1. That is one of my favorite mantras, Karen, and I thank you:
    Where we are is exactly where we are supposed to be. I’ve learned to trust that more and more, and I appreciate your reminder.
    Thanks, Diana Bletter (I interviewed you on my blog here:

  2. I too share your philosophy. Sometimes when I am at the gym I think all of us were meant to be here today in this moment and I think of all the energy and the beauty of everyone around me. I also think of my relationship with my sig other and how far we have traveled together and how I found recovery in this relationship and how it is meant to be. I am so grateful I found recovery. I feel like I was always meant to be. Living in the day just one day only…makes me feel safe secure..having a routine..the gym, meetings, cleaning house, phone calls to others in recovery, step work, prayer and meditation, work and spending tv time and chatting with my sig other in the evening…I feel I finally have the inner peace and serenity I always longed for. Living like this is simpler…easier…accepting life on lifes terms.. thank you as always:) Oh by the way I found a little book you must have written for hazelden..called the LOVE book 🙂 I was blessed to have found it ? never saw it it still in print?

    • Thank you so much for writing. I couldn’t agree more regarding our blessings. The Love Book was reissued as Worthy of Love in the 80’s. So glad you discovered the original.May the journey continue for both of us.

  3. Your work is a real blessing to men as well. I am continually blessed by your insights and awareness


    • Thanks so much, Dan, for writing. It means a great deal to me that men find help or comfort in my words too. We really are all very much alike.

  4. Thank you for the wonderful reminder today. It clearly takes some of the pressure off! If I could only live in that space ALL the time! I have to tell you that I got sober and cut my teeth on my own spiritual awakening through your books, some 28 years ago. You are such a blessing to recovering woman everywhere. Thank you.

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