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Reflections in the Mirror - You and Yourself
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October 6, 2010

How troubling are your character defects?

On Sunday, Jo Campe, the minister at The Recovery Church in St. Paul asked us to think about our character defects. I don’t know about you but I hate to think about my character defects, particularly the one that’s pointed out to me on a regular basis.  However, I know that admitting to defects, and to this one in particular, is the only way I can hope to get free of its grip.

My primary defect continues to be control.  Plain and simple!  I hate to admit to still having this defect after three and a half decades of recovery as a “Double Winner.”  I’m embarrassed, in fact.  Have I been brain-dead all these years?  I don’t think so but I do think the ego doesn’t want me to change.  As long as I stay in the grip of wanting to control others, I will remain in a state of conflict with whoever “the other” is,  and that pleases the ego very much.  The conflict need not be a serious one.  Even a minor one pleases the ego because it keeps me from “hearing” the voice of my Higher Power which will always suggest that I let go and seek peace instead.

The irony is that I have done a lot of writing these past few years about letting go.  Some of you know my books so you know what I’m referring to.  Does this mean that what I write isn’t honest?  On the contrary.  I write about topics I continue to struggle with.  Perhaps if I get fully healed one day, I’ll write no more books; but I think that’s not likely to happen any time soon.

I would like to quit trying to control others, however.  It’s a fallacy to think we can ever really control any one but the nagging attempts to do so are so obnoxious to the one who is the focus of the attempt and to any on-lookers.  Asking God for help is one solution, Paster Campe suggested.  I think it’s time I made a more serious attempt to do just that.

How are you doing with your defects?  Today is a good day to make a commitment to getting free of their hold on you.  Prayer is a good beginning.

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I am an author, a lecturer, and a workshop presenter. I have presented programs throughout the United States, Canada, Mexico, Germany, and Ireland. As of July, 2010 I have published 23 books, with number 24 being released in spring of 2011 and a memoir underway. For a listing of my books and ordering information, go to www.womens-spirituality.com. To contact me about presenting a program in your area, call 239-398-6327 or e-mail me from my web site or at jcasey4991@aol.com

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  • mark
    October 13, 2010

    My character defect that I struggle with is wanting to be special in the hearts of others. This paid off in my using days and if I didn’t know better I could justify this by telling my self I was doing to others as I wanted to be treated. That is good in its self but, I want to appear a certain way to those I care about. I guess it’s an image thing; not external but, the internal image. I’m getting better at being the way I want to be. Being sober helps alot as does having a cronic disease and needing to take care of myself. I allways watch my motives and let people know about this. I have never put it out there on this level and I thank you for the opportunity. much love, Mark.

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      mark
      October 13, 2010

      Hi Mark,
      You always have so many good and honest responses to make. Your input matters a lot to me.
      Peace,
      Karen

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    • karencasey
      mark
      October 17, 2010

      Hi Mark,
      Once again your honesty is so much appreciated. that’s what makes you so special in the hearts of so many.
      Karen

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  • Jo Campe
    October 12, 2010

    Finally got to your page…love it! We were talking last night about how important it is to remain humble. You are the best role model for such behavior. And, isn’t humility being right sized? If that is part of the definition then you show true humility. Love you my sister!

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      Jo Campe
      October 13, 2010

      HI Jo,
      Thanks for checking in. I am delighted we are in the same “camp.”
      Love,
      Karen

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