Reflections in the Mirror – You and Yourself

Acceptance is the way to peace of mind. . .

Those of us in Alcoholics Anonymous know, “acceptance is the answer to all our problems.” Many of us would agree that it’s easier said than done, but I am living proof that it can be done if you are willing, persistent, and make a habit of practicing acceptance. Quite likely […]

Perseverance and finding a balance pays off. . .

Sticking to a project of any kind provides its own reward.  I learned this well while in graduate school.  I was an enigma to my friends because I loved writing the multitude of papers that were assigned.  And unlike most of them, I didn’t put them off until the last […]

Change your mind and your life will follow. . .

The title of this post is the title of one of my recent books.  (You can check it out if interested on amazon.) I mention it today because it’s great shorthand for how to live differently.  As a woman in recovery I talk to a lot of other women, and […]

To embrace detachment offers us freedom from bondage. . .

I ponder the idea of detachment quite often.  It’s been the topic in more than one of the books I have written, (see www.womens-spirituality.com, books section) and it is the primary topic in many of the workshops and lectures I do in the public arena.  I love the topic because […]

Attaching ourselves to the emotional state of some one else prevents peace of mind. . .

I was at an Al-Anon meeting at noon today and even though the subject being discussed wasn’t specifically “attachment,” it did come up.  Letting the behavior of others, their moods, their actions, their opinions and comments control how we feel in the moment is common to us “codependents.”  I still […]

Leading from the heart heals all living things. . .

I was at a great 12 step meeting last night where the topic was “opening our hearts” to the travelers on our path, whoever they might be.  I am personally convinced that we could heal the wounds of the world if every one of us offered a “heart-felt” expression even […]

The gifts of recovery are far-reaching. . .

Every time I go to a meeting or receive a phone call from a friend or sit down at my computer to read comments on the posts I have written or open emails from readers who have been helped by one or another of my books, I sit back, stunned, […]

Tardiness is not a virtue. . .

Hello, dear friends.  Actually, I have not exactly been tardy but I have been away from the blog and for that I owe you an explanation.  Some of you have counted on me writing every 3 or 4 days and that’s been my intent too.  But I have been working […]

Intentions for the new year. . .

We’ve probably all made tons of resolutions over the years that we adhered to for a week or less.  Maybe only a few hours, in fact.  Perhaps that’s because resolutions are geared to what we are Not going to do, ever again! I think a more helpful approach might be […]

Detachment strikes a chord. . .

Many recent readers have commented specifically on some of my earlier posts dealing with detachment.  This is like music to my ears since detachment has been one of my favorite topics to write and speak about in lectures and workshops for the past few years.  (See amazon.com for a listing […]