My family has been here visiting all week. There was a time in my life that I'd have been overwhelmed by anxiety over what could go wrong; how discussions could go awry; how to control the always uncontrollable when it comes to other people, the weather, the news cycles that could lead to tension and on and on. When I face this honestly, in the far distant past (from childhood on) I was always on pins and needles trying to control what could never be controlled. I still want "to go there" some times, but I have learned that that door is closed! Tight. And I[...]
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2 When I first heard the suggestion to detach from another person, I interpreted it to mean to sever all ties, all communication. Considering it was a relationship partner I was supposed to detach from, I found the suggestion out of the question. What I had failed to understand at that time and frankly, for many months to come, was that detachment didn't mean to literally turn my back on some one. But rather to shield my emotions from the behavior of others. To let others do whatever they did without my own emotions jumping on their roller-coaster. It wasn[...]
Perhaps you have heard this wise phrase: "our job is the effort, not the outcome." How often do we embrace it fully? Generally, we want to “secure” the result that we have imagined is the perfect one. And to do this, we assume we have to shepherd the project or the situation, or the person, down the path that leads to our definition of the “natural conclusion.” But the correct conclusion, God’s will, might not even resemble our will. That’s not an easy adjustment to make in our thinking. Hindsight is so revealing. For just a moment, recall a situat[...]
