Reviewing the “old tricks.”

A funk had settled over me.  I wasn’t hopping out of bed with much enthusiasm.  The dread of old had settled in.  Again.  For how long this time, I wondered.  This experience isn’t new.  It’s a common theme for me, actually.  Sometimes it feels like I pay more than an […]

How I treat those closest to me needs work. Lots of it.

I am often not who I want to be in the relationship that is the dearest to me.  And it’s a pattern I am struggling to change.  At last night’s AA meeting we discussed “taking it home,” meaning being as kind at home to our loved ones as we are […]

By January 28, 2015 4 comments Karen's Musings

Let go is a constant assignment. Constant!

How little I understood the concept of “letting go” when I first saw the slogan: Let Go, Let God, on the wall of an Al-Anon meeting nearly forty years ago.  It sounded so simple.  I didn’t consider myself “attached” to any one or any thing.  In reality, my feelings, thus […]

“I am here only to be truly helpful . . .”

This is the first line of a prayer that I say every morning.  And I use this line as a “stand alone” throughout the day when I feel uncertain about the situation I am faced with.  I believe, completely, that each person on the planet is here to be only […]

Defining our boundaries, AND THEN LIVING ACCORDINGLY, cultivates peace of mind.

In a response I received from an earlier post, a request was made for my thoughts on boundaries.  This topic has been rolling around in my mind ever since.  I’ve found myself questioning what it is that I really believe.  What does my own behavior reflect? It’s a word that […]

I’m in a quandary. Sort of . . .

I have a doggone good life.  I have a great profession that has blessed me in so many ways.  How many of us actually get to spend our lives doing what brings us pleasure every day?  I am one of those individuals.  Shortly after finishing my Ph.D. in 1979, my […]

Every encounter is a Holy encounter.

I love this statement because it leaves no room for hedging your bets.  It’s a truth that simply is.  No one who passes before you does so in a meaningless way.  Each person is a blessing.  Pure and simple.  And we don’t have to believe this for it to be […]

We get just what we need. Really?

How many times have I repeated this phrase to a friend, a sponsee, a family member?  More times than I can count.  And I believe it.  For them.  And occasionally for me too.  However, I am struggling with a situation currently that I am not ready to embrace as something […]

Resilience is a time honored trait.

Resilience is a compelling trait. It’s standing tall rather than hanging our heads and shuffling away when the invitation to give up beckons.  Resilience is saying, “Yes I can,” in the presence of those who doubt us.  And it’s never succumbing to the forces of defeat that may be all […]

Step Eleven: a pathway to peace.

Step Eleven softens my heart every time it’s the topic of discussion in one of my meetings.  That wasn’t the case when I first got sober however; it wasn’t the case for the first year or two.  Not because I didn’t believe in the possibility of the power of prayer […]