Compassion is a sign of mental health. . .
The above statement is attributed to Gloria Steinem. The interviewer was pushing her to be upset about the bickering among the “players” in the political arena, and her response was that every one has a right to his or her opinion. She elaborated by saying, in regard to every one, that having compassion is a sign of mental health, compassion for wherever some one is on their path. Truth is simple and nonetheless strong. And her statement was both simple and strong. Allowing people “whatever truth” they choose to live by is both freeing and kind. And it does not mean we have to agree with it.
Having compassion for others, regardless of who they are and what their opinions may be, takes willingness coupled with commitment. At times even prayer and perseverance. But the outcome of being compassionate is peace of mind and relief, the kind that comes with letting go.
We can’t change others, in fact, any thing about others. We can only accept them, or not, as they are. Acceptance doesn’t mean we have to love what others do or say; it only means we are willing to allow them their “space;” their perspective without our interference. If we feel we must interfere, we aren’t showing compassion, acceptance or respect. We are not receiving the lessons the presence of that individual has come to teach and we are the losers as a result.
Making the decision to be compassionate is the first step to changing one’s behavior. It can become a habit, just as easily as being judgmental has been a habit for so many of us. Pausing before allowing our minds to judge, or changing our mind in the middle of a judgmental thought, (an action that is possible), is a good first step. Then softening our hearts is the second step. Think of it as kindness. Making the decision to be kind is what being compassionate is all about. It can begin with a smile. The nod of one’s head. A silent prayer.
Think of developing compassion as a worthy challenge if it isn’t presently your default setting. It will add to the health of one’s family; the well being of one’s community; the wholeness of the world at large. Savor the softened heart that is your by-product of the expression of compassion. It will make you want to “live in this space” more often. Maybe always.
Being compassionate is a goal worth one’s effort. It has huge payoffs for all of humankind. You can add to that pay off beginning now.
