Detachment is stepping back from an experience in order to allow room for God to do his part. I seldom remember, without some prodding that I initially resist, that God is a factor in every person’s experience. My ego’s first inclination is to think I am a necessary factor. And not just an ordinary one but the deciding one. Giving up control and letting God be the key influence in the lives of my loved ones is not easy. It takes trust. Not only trust in God but trust in others and in my own willingness to approach my experiences with all of them differently.
The benefit of coming to believe that God is the key factor in every one’s life is that it releases us of a heavy burden. Too many of us have tried to manage the lives of too many others for far too long. No one gains in that scenario. On the contrary, every one loses the peace that comes with turning our lives over to the care and guidance of a loving God. How well I know this to be true.
In my first marriage I tried to force a husband into being devoted and under my constant control. He left. As any smart person would do. And then I tried again, in relationship after failed relationship. Then I found my own way into the rooms of recovery. Al-Anon first and what an eye-opener. Controlling no one was the key. No one but myself, that is. How things have changed.
Marriage number two hasn’t always been easy but with constant attention to my willingness to let go has made for a peaceful partnership. What more can any one want?
Keeping a mental note of all of the times I step away from an experience that isn’t mine to control will fill me with a sense of empowerment. What a great opportunity this will be today.
Angel
You said exactly what I needed to hear today~ thank you so much for your blogs and sharing your message~ I truly believe I found you, your book and your blog through my growing faith and trust in God. I asked God to tell me what I needed to hear and let me see what I needed to see and here you are~ wow~ thank you again