Our connections with others are “heaven sent” . . .
I have spent the last twenty years of my life writing and speaking about relationships; how we can improve them by making them more peaceful, more productive and more loving within our many communities. You have read in other blogs of mine or in books I have written, or perhaps even heard me say in a workshop that nothing and no one appears on our radar screen by accident or complete surprise. Perhaps we didn’t know what was just around the corner, but it was known.
That’s a huge blessing to all of us, I think. It has allowed me to relax about the future events, those experiences I don’t know are headed my way but have learned, from revisiting my past, that I am prepared for, regardless.
Just that simple reminder that we have been fully prepared for every thing that happens to us offers profound relief. And those times that we feel momentarily confused or fearful, we can remind ourselves that God is present in the experience, and we are ready for it or it wouldn’t be paying a visit. Revisiting this idea on a daily basis has made it possible for me to leave unnecessary words unsaid, unproductive actions not engaged in, unloving thoughts released and reframed into loving expressions.
Not one thing that I am telling you here was a part of my belief system before walking through the doors of a fellowship group so many decades ago. I used to think that life happened quite randomly. I used to feel quite certain there was no God. And I didn’t think my life had any purpose beyond taking my next “hostage” so I’d feel secure. Now none of those ideas influence me in any way. I have had a complete change of mind. I feel free. Free of worry. Free from expectations of what might or could happen. Free of dread about the future. Free of concern over my loved ones too. Their presence in my life is intentional but our involvement with one another is under the guidance of God. Not me. Not them.
Going about the day with this as my abiding belief sets the stage for a level of acceptance coupled with hope that serves me and those I interact with in a very positive way. Not dreading putting my feet on the floor when I wake up every morning is a thrilling experience, simple though it may sound. Only some one who lived in constant fear and agitation as had been true for me the first 35 years of my life can know how good each day feels now. I am filled with trust that those people I need to know and those experiences I need to have will find me. And vice versa. Praise be to God.
