Resilience is a compelling trait. It\u2019s standing tall rather than hanging our heads and shuffling away when the invitation to give up beckons.\u00a0 Resilience is saying, \u201cYes I can,\u201d in the presence of those who doubt us. \u00a0And it\u2019s never succumbing to the forces of defeat that may be all around us.<\/p>\n
Being resilient in the face of humiliation, or rage, or degradation, or fear of defeat, or just simply indefinable fear is the fabric of eventual success.\u00a0 Rebounding or recovering from the many personal insults, whether they are large or small, overt or covert, physical, mental or emotional, that life hands us in our family of origin, our workplace, and even among our circle of friends; contributes to the pattern of growth that we\u2019ll undoubtedly experience. Those very experiences that could stunt our development, instead strengthens it, if we are resilient.<\/p>\n
Few of us graciously accept the insults that so commonly become a natural part of living. That\u2019s to be expected, perhaps.\u00a0 But what we manage to tolerate, successfully, we will thrive from in time. That\u2019s my experience any way.\u00a0 And that\u2019s the experience I think we can all cultivate. That\u2019s the experience I hope to help others develop through writings such as this.<\/p>\n
I have become convinced ever since publishing my first book, EACH DAY A NEW BEGINNING,<\/i><\/b> in 1982, that my \u201ccalling\u201d<\/i><\/b>\u00a0 so to speak, is to serve as your teacher in any way that I can.\u00a0 By that I mean, to share with you, all that I have gathered from others, over the years.\u00a0 And through my sharing, I get the added pleasure of relearning<\/i><\/b> all that I offer you.<\/p>\n
Choosing to share about resilience here was intentional, even though there are myriad other \u201cstrengths\u201d that could have been written about. \u00a0But I think resilience is the kernel that lives at the center of all the positive characteristics we develop when we grow up in families that struggle to be functional.\u00a0 What I want us to see is how resilience informs <\/i><\/b>all the experiences we face while trying to make sense of a dysfunctional family system.<\/p>\n
*Resilience means believing there is a path that has been charted for you and staying on it even when you stumble.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
Resilience serves as the \u201cbackdrop\u201d for lives that moved forward rather than succumbing to the pain, the downdraft of the \u201cunenlightened\u201d family of origin.\u00a0 I say unenlightened because I have have come to believe through listening to tens of thousands of individuals at 12 step meetings over the last three decades, that parents generally did the best they could; their best was simply seldom good enough because it wasn\u2019t well informed.\u00a0 And since that was the case, I think it\u2019s fair to say it took a herculean effort by the many individuals who have crossed my path to thrive, regardless of their circumstances.<\/p>\n
Thriving is what true growth is all about. \u00a0May we each continue to grow and help one another to grow too.<\/p>\n
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Resilience is a compelling trait. It\u2019s standing tall rather than hanging our heads and shuffling away when the invitation to give up beckons.\u00a0 Resilience is saying, \u201cYes I can,\u201d in the presence of those who doubt us. \u00a0And it\u2019s never succumbing to the forces of defeat that may be all around us. Being resilient in […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[8,10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3372","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-musings","category-reflections-in-the-mirror-you-and-yourself"],"yoast_head":"\n