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I was talking with a friend the other evening about “attachment issues” and how common they are to so many of us. \u00a0Codependency has gotten a bit of a bad name over the years because it is thrown around and used to describe myriad reactions to people, places and things. \u00a0My friend shared with me a new term: Independency. \u00a0Her therapist talked to her about strengthening her independency<\/strong> rather than trying to eliminate her codependency.<\/p>\n

Independency resonates with me. \u00a0It’s empowering and hopeful and achievable, I think, one action at a time. \u00a0Too many simply chalk up their “bad behavior” to their codependency with no real plan for changing the behavior. \u00a0Independency invites you to think of yourself in a new way, I believe. \u00a0It rather reminds me of saying “I am a nonsmoker now” rather than being a disgruntled ex-smoker.<\/p>\n

When I wrote, IF ONLY I COULD QUIT: BECOMING A NONSMOKER, in 1985, I was attempting to give the reader a new persona, one that was powerful in a healthy way. \u00a0Because I had recently become a nonsmoker too, I knew the power of the word. \u00a0Words can define us. \u00a0They can and do strengthen us, and they propel us to new heights. \u00a0Watching the words we use, monitoring them closely, will reveal many things to us, I think.<\/p>\n

Hearing the words others use to describe themselves is quite revealing, likewise. \u00a0Have you tried on any new words<\/em> lately? \u00a0Exploring this idea may be transforming. \u00a0In fact, I think I’d say it will be transforming<\/strong>. \u00a0Go for it!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I was talking with a friend the other evening about “attachment issues” and how common they are to so many of us. \u00a0Codependency has gotten a bit of a bad name over the years because it is thrown around and used to describe myriad reactions to people, places and things. \u00a0My friend shared with me […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[187],"class_list":["post-298","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-reflections-in-the-mirror-you-and-yourself","tag-seeing-a-new-way"],"yoast_head":"\nBeing introduced to a new "way of seeing" is a pleasure. . . | Karen Casey<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.womens-spirituality.com\/?p=298\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Being introduced to a new "way of seeing" is a pleasure. . . | Karen Casey\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I was talking with a friend the other evening about “attachment issues” and how common they are to so many of us. \u00a0Codependency has gotten a bit of a bad name over the years because it is thrown around and used to describe myriad reactions to people, places and things. \u00a0My friend shared with me […]\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.womens-spirituality.com\/?p=298\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Karen Casey\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2010-02-13T02:38:18+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"karencasey\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"karencasey\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"1 minute\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\\\/\\\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.womens-spirituality.com\\\/?p=298#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.womens-spirituality.com\\\/?p=298\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"karencasey\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.womens-spirituality.com\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/be42ec49697eba07d84ddf86ace97639\"},\"headline\":\"Being introduced to a new "way of seeing" is a pleasure. . .\",\"datePublished\":\"2010-02-13T02:38:18+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.womens-spirituality.com\\\/?p=298\"},\"wordCount\":273,\"commentCount\":39,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.womens-spirituality.com\\\/#organization\"},\"keywords\":[\"Seeing a new way\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Reflections in the Mirror - 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