{"id":259,"date":"2010-01-19T12:05:16","date_gmt":"2010-01-19T17:05:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/karencasey.wordpress.com\/?p=259"},"modified":"2010-01-19T12:05:16","modified_gmt":"2010-01-19T17:05:16","slug":"every-one-we-meet-is-part-of-our-destiny","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.womens-spirituality.com\/?p=259","title":{"rendered":"Every one we meet is part of our destiny. . ."},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I had an opportunity to meet some one I took an instant dislike to at a friend\u2019s home recently. Every thing about the man got under my skin. He was loud; he didn\u2019t listen to others when they spoke; he seemed particularly dismissive of women; he was very judgmental, from my perception, and it seemed we had nothing in common. And then I heard him mention he was in recovery. What a difference that piece of information made to me. Why was I so quick to dismiss him at first and then just as quickly forgive him his \u201capparent\u201d flaws, when I found out we shared the most important of all my values?<\/p>\n<p>This gave me a lot of food for thought over the next few days. I had heard all the cliches, like \u201cyou spot it you got it\u201d and every one is a mirror of yourself. I knew that I saw in him some of my own characteristics, particularly those that I abhorred, but what was it that allowed me to instantly see him differently when I found out we both traveled the recovery road? I am not sure I have sorted this out yet, but I do think having the willingness to lay aside my judgments when I want to is an indication that I can lay them aside even when I don\u2019t want to. They have not become hardened in concrete. They are merely hovering over my shoulders until I throw them off. The decision to do so is always as close as my next thought.<\/p>\n<p>What I most realized from this and similar experiences is that this man served as a great &#8220;learning partner&#8221; for me. \u00a0I was willing to cast him aside, not without extreme judgment of course, choosing to believe that he had nothing to offer me when, in fact, his very presence was offering me an awareness that I needed to be reminded of once again: <strong>every person is in my face for a reason <\/strong>and the lesson will be learned, if not now, later.<\/p>\n<p>I accept this as a very hopeful awareness. It means that nothing that happens is by chance. Every person who wanders into my life has been called to that moment in time. Isn\u2019t this a glorious concept? Doesn\u2019t it change every past situation that you hated? Doesn\u2019t it shine a new light on every person you meet that you aren\u2019t immediately drawn to? It means we can live free of dread. 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