The title of this post is the title of one of my recent books. \u00a0(You can check it out if interested on amazon.) I mention it today because it’s great shorthand for how to live differently. \u00a0As a woman in recovery I talk to a lot of other women, and men too, in recovery who struggle, as I have struggled, with wanting a different life, a different set of experiences, different friends perhaps.<\/p>\n
But if we keep doing the same old thing we will keep getting the same old results. \u00a0Wherever we go there we are<\/strong>, as author and speaker Earnie Larson was famous for saying. \u00a0If nothing changes, nothing changes. \u00a0And if we continue to believe the same old ideas, hang out in the same old places, tolerate the same old behaviors from ourselves and others, we will not be available for new experiences. \u00a0We will not even notice them trying to get our attention.<\/p>\n But change is possible. \u00a0A change in experiences. \u00a0A change in beliefs. \u00a0A change in friends. \u00a0I am living proof of that. \u00a0Perhaps the first way I changed was coming to believe that my journey was divine<\/strong><\/em>, that it was intentional <\/strong><\/em>and that every person I have ever met, was meeting now and would meet in the future were part of the drama that was destined to be mine.<\/p>\n That may sound too simplistic in this sophisticated, yet very chaotic world but it allows me to feel a sense of assurance and purpose. \u00a0It has made every step I take, every day, a bit more certain. \u00a0My part is to listen for God’s guidance. \u00a0It will come. \u00a0Not necessarily in the form of words but in feelings. \u00a0I have learned to trust my feelings. \u00a0I know that the hand of God was ever present in the many painful times I had. \u00a0I know that God was lovingly present in every experience, \u00a0every situation I have tolerated for the wisdom they have allowed me to garner and that I have passed on to others over the years.<\/p>\n There are no accidents. \u00a0Clearly. \u00a0I am convinced that who I meet today or tomorrow or next year has been already decided. \u00a0I love the power and the simplicity of this idea. \u00a0I don’t have to fret over any thing. \u00a0The future waits for me to get there. \u00a0It took a major change of mind for me to become willing to believe this idea, but since I have, I am able to bask in the peace of the moment.<\/p>\n Does the idea of changing your mind in order to have a more peaceful life appeal to you? \u00a0It’s not all that hard. \u00a0Start small.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The title of this post is the title of one of my recent books. \u00a0(You can check it out if interested on amazon.) I mention it today because it’s great shorthand for how to live differently. \u00a0As a woman in recovery I talk to a lot of other women, and men too, in recovery who […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-reflections-in-the-mirror-you-and-yourself"],"yoast_head":"\n