The success of our relationships often depends on our willingness to detach from the behavior of others. \u00a0How often have we thought, “If only he or she would . . . ” \u00a0 I spent many years quite certain that if others would only change, I’d be happy, free from anxiety, content that the future would be all that I deserved. \u00a0Try as I did, I was not successful in getting others to change. \u00a0Nor did I even understand the concept of detachment. \u00a0And now I am relieved that I am no longer held hostage by such folly.<\/p>\n
The burden of trying to be in control of the uncontrollable is heavy, indeed. \u00a0And the freedom one feels from letting go of that control is exhilarating. \u00a0How many hours or weeks or years have you allowed the behavior of others determine how you feel? \u00a0It doesn’t have to be that way. \u00a0But as with so many things, practice is necessary.<\/p>\n
I spent years practicing before I got real relief. \u00a0I still get opportunities every day to detach from some one else’s behavior. \u00a0I am convinced that if some one is bugging me, it’s a lesson in detachment I need more practice with. \u00a0And now I can greet it with gratitude.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The success of our relationships often depends on our willingness to detach from the behavior of others. \u00a0How often have we thought, “If only he or she would . . . ” \u00a0 I spent many years quite certain that if others would only change, I’d be happy, free from anxiety, content that the future […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[52,61,113,178],"class_list":["post-129","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-reflections-in-the-mirror-you-and-yourself","tag-control","tag-detachment","tag-hostage","tag-relationship-success"],"yoast_head":"\n